Letter from Dad

I quote from one of the Chicken Soup for the soul series , entitled The Wisdom of Dads.

The following is a letter of apology from a father. It remind us as fathers, to be the rock solid role model for our children. Our children look up to us as their childhood Hero.

Let us, as fathers continue to learn about nurturing healthy relationships and healing hurting relationships in our families. In moments of intense emotions e.g. anger, frustration, fears, hatred or disappointment, we need to exercise self restraint and learn to calm down and seek wisdom, before we say those irreversible hurting words to one another. Let us learn to forgive and embrace each other’s strengths and limitations.

 

by Vincent

 

 

Apology to a Child

By the time that you can read this
You may not know me well
But then again, we may be close
You can never really tell.

You used to call me “Daddy”
I used to hold you tight
I used to bathe you everyday
And tuck you in a night.

I should have held your Mommy more
We should have sat and talked
The love grew cold, the words got hot
And then one day I walked.

I cried the night I left you all
I cried again today
It seems sometimes that’s all I’ve done
Since that night I went away.

I hope you know I love you
Though I wasn’t always there
I think about you constantly
And you’re always in my prayers.

I hope someday you’ll understand
That this thing hurt me, too
I hope you’ll know, I always have
And always will love you.

Last night I drove to where you live
I saw your bedroom light
I sat and watched and thought of you
Until the sky grew bright.

I am not the man I used to be
I’ve learned a lot since then
I wish that I could turn back time
And live with you again.

But I can’t change the things I’ve done
Or take back things I’ve said
All I can do is write these words
While lying here in my bed.

I hope that when you read this
You will know this one thing’s true
That no one else in this whole world
Means more to me than you.

by Ron Wutka

 

Here is a very meaningful 90 seconds video clip by Dr. James Dobson on family talk

Mental health and Stories of Recovery Sammi Cheng and Fiona Sit

Mental health and Stories of Recovery from Hong Kong actresses Sammi Cheng and Fiona Sit

A meaningful story of how they courageously accepted their clinical depression and seek help to achieve recovery.

A broken windscreen or a broken heart?

On February 2019, which was several months ago,

On a Sunday, i was about to go cycling with my son. As i carry my son’s bicycle, in a rush manner, i accidentally broke my car’s windscreen.  Ooucchh!  My heart grieves a little as it was a 6 months old car.  After some background check, i found out that i need to spend certain amount of money to get it fixed.

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Later i realized that this amount is my tuition fees for the following precious life lessons  :

1. Do not rush, in whatever you do.   

2. Everyone make mistakes. Which human being does not make mistakes? 

3. Do not be harsh with those who make mistakes

Since I was not too angry with my own mistake, i shall not be too upset with other people’s mistakes. Most mistakes are unintentional and everyone should be given a second or third chance to learn from their mistakes.  We should try to forgive one another.

4. It is better to break my windscreen than to break the heart of my loved ones.

I can spend some money to replace the broken windscreen although it will hurt my pocket, however, i will NEVER be able to fix a broken heart of a human soul which will be psychologically / emotionally / mentally traumatized for a long long time.

So, always be wise and discern the right thing to do or say.

I think this tuition fees is well spent after all.

Vincent

To Err is human

 

A Great Poem on Parenting

I meet children and teenagers who has emotional issues on a daily basis. Hence i must share with the world on this meaningful and beautiful  poem on parenting by Dorothy Law Nolte.

Children Learn What They Live

by Dorothy Law Nolte

Child learns

The good life : Study on Health and Happiness

The good life :

Here is a  75 years research by Harvard University on Health and Happiness.

 

This was shared by Professor Robert Waldinger, Psychiatrist at Harvard.

 

Click the following for the talk :

 

How to be Healthy and Truly Happy?

 

 

 


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