I quote from one of the Chicken Soup for the soul series , entitled The Wisdom of Dads.
The following is a letter of apology from a father. It remind us as fathers, to be the rock solid role model for our children. Our children look up to us as their childhood Hero.
Let us, as fathers continue to learn about nurturing healthy relationships and healing hurting relationships in our families. In moments of intense emotions e.g. anger, frustration, fears, hatred or disappointment, we need to exercise self restraint and learn to calm down before we say those irreversible hurting words to one another. Let us learn to forgive and accepts each others strengths and weaknesses.
For I believe that one of the greatest pain in life is regret.
Apology to a Child
By the time that you can read this
You may not know me well
But then again, we may be close
You can never really tell.
You used to call me “Daddy”
I used to hold you tight
I used to bathe you everyday
And tuck you in a night.
I should have held your Mommy more
We should have sat and talked
The love grew cold, the words got hot
And then one day I walked.
I cried the night I left you all
I cried again today
It seems sometimes that’s all I’ve done
Since that night I went away.
I hope you know I love you
Though I wasn’t always there
I think about you constantly
And you’re always in my prayers.
I hope someday you’ll understand
That this thing hurt me, too
I hope you’ll know, I always have
And always will love you.
Last night I drove to where you live
I saw your bedroom light
I sat and watched and thought of you
Until the sky grew bright.
I am not the man I used to be
I’ve learned a lot since then
I wish that I could turn back time
And live with you again.
But I can’t change the things I’ve done
Or take back things I’ve said
All I can do is write these words
While lying here in my bed.
I hope that when you read this
You will know this one thing’s true
That no one else in this whole world
Means more to me than you.
by Ron Wutka
The Global burden of Disease 2010 is a worldwide survey to determine the severity of diseases in affecting our lives. It measures how each disease affect our human life span and reduces quality of life.
Here is a video summary of Global Burden of Disease 2010 for Psychiatric or Mental Disorder by LANCET.
In 2001, the World Health Organization (WHO) focus its effort on mental health. As a result, the theme for the World Health Report 2001 was entitled Mental Health : New Understanding, New Hope.
Here is an excerpt from a poem by Damien Ah Sam which can be found in the report summary.
What do I know about a mentally ill person?
I don’t know what they’ve told you,
I don’t know what you’ve heard,
But if you care to hear my thoughts,
Please listen to these words.
I dream to bridge the distance,
And make ourselves aware,
That we must accept each other,
And erase these frosted stares.
If you feel your life is empty,
And that the sun won’t shine,
Think of those who have fallen ill,
In emotion and in mind.
Then look beyond their misfortune,
And love them for they’re worth,
A place in our empty hearts,
A place upon this earth.
By Damien Ah Sam, International Secondary School, Fiji
A national entry to to the Global School Contest on
Mental Health, World Health Day 2001, category 15-18 years:
Before i begin my day as a psychiatrist in my clinic (Petaling Jaya or Kuala Lumpur), i will try to enjoy the beautiful, breezy cooling weather every morning. Of course, waking up before sunrise is quite a challenge but it is certainly worth it whenever I take a morning walk at a nearby park.
At Section 14, Petaling Jaya, i found my favourite park which has a great “chi” attached to it. There are so much energy and vibrance! There is a group of ladies performing Qi Gong with soothing music and scores of people jogging or having their brisk walk. The sound of birds chirping in the background are always the perfect music for me to start my day!
Indeed, I am fully aware that I need to be recharged and have good mental health to do my job.
Let me share with you an article exploring the wonderful benefits of nature for our emotional or mental health from the British Medical Journal.
In my capacity as a psychiatrist ( mental health professional ), i have recently shared in a conference on mental health for senior citizens and growing old gracefully in Petaling Jaya ( Malaysia ). Guess what? I was utterly amazed at how much i have learned and benefited from the preparation. And i certainly hope that the audience has benefited too.
Click here for a recent research on longevity from USA
I would also like to share with you my talk. I trust that you would keep an open mind . Click topic on Mental Healh Issues in Senior Citizens
Besides my presentation, you can also look at other topics for free from the counselling website.
“The best preparation for tommorow is to do todays’s work superbly well” Sir William Osler