Mental health Care

Welcome to Brain Mind Specialist

The World Health Organization (WHO) defines health as “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity”.

Therefore a complete sense of well being involves the journey of nurturing our physical, mental ( thoughts and emotion ) and spiritual health.

Total mental health involves not only management of emotional issues but discovering and developing the strengths, abilities and talents which is inherent in every individual.

 

Brain Mind Specialist  is committed to ensure that you attain holistic health which includes physical, emotional,social and spiritual.

 

“Life is difficult. This is the great truth, one of the greatest truths – it is a great truth because once we see this truth, we transcend it.”
Dr. M. Scott Peck

 

Dr. Vincent Wong

vinjoes@yahoo.com

Contact

1)  03-79609021 ( Petaling Jaya Clinic )

2) 03-20312120 ( Kuala Lumpur Clinic )

 

 

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Emotional (Amygdala) Hijack !!

How many of us frequently argue with our spouse?   I do.

Simply because both of us will battle it out intellectually and sometimes emotionally to justify and defend our views!  About 2 weeks ago, we had a quarrel and both of us felt pretty upset. At a spur of my emotional moment, I felt like cancelling a family trip which was scheduled in a week time, and it felt so right to make that decision to cancel the hotel even though the booking fees were not refundable. Thankfully , I did not let my emotions got the better of me.

Several years ago, I came across the term Amygdala Hijack, used by a Singaporean speaker John Ng, an expert in mediation and conflict management and  author of the book “Dim Sum for great marriages”.  In fact, the term was reportedly coined by the famous psychologist, Daniel Goleman, author of the book, “Emotional Intelligence : Why it can matter more than IQ”.

 

The amygdala is an almond-shape structure in the brain which functions as the emotional traffic controller.   It is also called the emotional brain. It is a highly important structure for our survival when we need to face off with a ferocious lion !  It regulates fear and anger responses.

On the other hand, our brain has the Frontal Cortex or the Thinking brain which serves as the centre of logical and rational thinking.  Besides, it also regulates self-control, calm, wisdom and discernment.

During moments of perceived danger, the amygdala will be rapidly activated to start off the fight or flight response.  For individuals who may had previous traumatic experiences, their amygdala may be highly sensitized to any perceived threats, be it minor or major. An overwhelmed amygdala would then suppressed ( Hijack ) the Thinking brain ( Frontal cortex ) in order to confront the perceived “beast”  in an attacking and defensive mode.

AH Diagram

 

You see, it felt so right to fight when we perceived that our emotional security / dignity / individual rights has been threatened !

After I had calm down,  I began to realized that my decision to cancel the hotel bookings were absolutely impulsive and emotional in nature. It was a biased, irrational and an unwise thought.   The kids would be utterly disappointed with daddy for breaking my promise for a much needed family trip.  And I may regret bitterly over my impulsive decision. I began to realized that both of us were merely over reacting because our amygdalas were HIJACKED !

So , are we merely puppets to the automatic survival circuits in our brain? The answer is NO.  It is very important to widen the gap between the impulse and action.

We can choose to practice self awareness or mindfulness.  We can practice being aware of our “emotional temperature”. Instead of reacting like a knee jerk reflex, we could learn to respond like a traffic light system, Stop (Red), Calm Down to Think(Yellow) and Respond ( Green) in an understanding, rational, reasonable and responsible manner.

Sometimes it helps to discuss with a trusted and wise person before make any impulsive decisions which we may regret later.

Having written all the above, i realized the need to constantly remind myself that the precious relationships in our lives is far more important than the minor issues which is often not worth fighting for.

i also believe that the take home message is to choose our battles – and if we really need to battle it out, we need to fight fair.

 

 

 

The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

John Wooden

 

 

It is better to be kind than to be right.                                                                        

Wayne  W. Dyer

 

Documentary on Dementia (失智症) by Melody FM Malaysia

On the 4 April 2017, I was invited to share on Dementia (失智症) 
by Melody FM, Malaysia.

Here is a short documentary video on Dementia.
( in Mandarin and Cantonese )

 

 

 

Feeling or Facts : Which is first?

Well, it really depends on the situation at hand.

Let me bring your attention to the 3 most important elements that motivate, drive and give us enormous power. According to Dr. Lawrence J. Crabb, the 3 elements are Fact, Faith (Action), and Feelings. In this context, the word faith is not referring to a spiritual meaning but a belief in doing the right thing based on facts and reality.

For most of us, feelings affect our behaviours or actions.

Our behaviours are often driven by our moods. However, as Oswald Chamber rightly puts it, our mood are mostly instinctual and at times may not have much logic to it.  We may sometimes say to ourselves “ I simply do not feel like studying” or “going to work” or “ do this “ or “do that”

 

Feelings(Moods)—->Faith(Action)—->Fact(Reality)

 

However,  we should not always allow our emotions/feelings to lead us, instead, we sometimes may need to allow facts, truth and reality to lead our actions.  Facts which is followed by actions ( having the faith that we need to act on what is right and appropriate)

Hence the alternative sequence will be :

factfaithfeeling

When we allow Facts to guide our actions ( moving in Faith ),  Positive Feelings will eventually occur which will further energize the whole “engine”!

***HOWEVER, during the process of helping someone who is feeling overwhelmed by intense emotions such as grief, sadness or fears,  it may appeared insensitive to argue with the person based solely on logic, rational thinking and facts.  In such situation,  empathizing with the person’s FEELINGS is of utmost importance before dishing out any factual reasoning. The person needs to feel listened to and understood in the first place.

*** In the event where the overwhelming feelings became very intense or persistent or affecting his or her daily activities, then we need to consider the possibility of a mental health issues which may require professional help.

 

 

Remembering the love of our Kinabalu heros

On the 7 June 2015, 7.15am, a rare 6.0-magnitude earthquake strucked Sabah, killing 18, children and adults who were up at Mount Kinabalu ( 4,092m ) at that time.

It was indeed a very sad and heart-breaking day and I believe that the searing pain of the sudden loss of loved one will never really go away for the grieving family members.

Four mountain guides died in their attempts to save many of the school-going children as well as adult climbers.

dav

 

Let us remember the deceased mountain guides for their love and sacrifices of their own lives in order to save others. They are truly our heros.

 

 

dav

 

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