Mental health Care

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The World Health Organization (WHO) defines health as “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity”.

Therefore a complete sense of well being involves the journey of nurturing our physical, mental ( thoughts and emotion ) and spiritual health.

Total mental health involves not only management of emotional issues but discovering and developing the strengths, abilities and talents which is inherent in every individual.

 

Brain Mind Specialist  is committed to ensure that you attain holistic health which includes physical, emotional,social and spiritual.

 

“Life is difficult. This is the great truth, one of the greatest truths – it is a great truth because once we see this truth, we transcend it.”
Dr. M. Scott Peck

 

Dr. Vincent Wong

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2) 03-20312120 ( Kuala Lumpur Clinic )

 

 

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How can parents take an active role in to promote mental health and preventing delinquent behaviours in their children?

Three researchers were awarded the Stockholm prize in criminology for showing how parents could prevent a child from becoming delinquent. One of them is Professor Travis Hirschi from University of Arizona.

Here is the news article. Click here for the news article

Let me focus on the following:

How can parents take an active role in preventing delinquent behaviours in their children?

According to the Cambridge dictionary, delinquency means behaviour, especially of a young person, that is illegal or not acceptable to most people. For example, a young person who commits crime.

We can argue that the burden of delinquency prevention rest on multiples factors such as parents, school environment, teachers and government agencies.  However, ultimately , we as parents have the most control over the behaviours of our children.  We need to put our hearts and will to set clear priorities on raising confident and mature kids. We need to put our family first above everything else.

A Survey from Columbia University showed that children from families who had dinner together for five to seven times per week were significantly less likely to experiment with illegal drugs or substances.

By simply taking an active interest in the lives of our children such as spending time to listen, understand and talk to them, we are actually filling up the “emotional tank” of our kids and help to prevent delinquency.

A sociology professor at the University of Arizona, Travis Hirschi  studied 4,077 teenagers in a crime-ridden suburb of San Francisco, USA. He collected police records, self-reported criminal activities and the teens’ own attitudes. His large research showed the paramount importance of the child’s attachment to parents in shaping a decent attitude.

Even with criminal parents, Hirschi found that a strong attachment to one or both parents helped prevent delinquency.

Hence, if we want to raise our children to become responsible citizens with good mental and emotional well being, we must and we need to spend time to nurture our relationships/attachments with our children. There is no short cut or or two ways about it!

 

JoshMcdowell quote

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How to create a strong family?

For mental health or family health, it may not be easy to differentiate what is normal (healthy) vs abnormal (unhealthy).

By the time we realized that something is wrong, it may be too late. It is like the analogy of a frog in a boiling water.

Frog in boiling water

However, if we acknowledge the problem and switch gear to damage control mode, there is always hope.  It would be a much greater problem when we do not realize or are not aware that there is a problem.  We may be in the state of denial.

Professor John D. DeFrain and Professor Nick Stinnett have outlined 6 basic characteristics of healthy family functioning in the American Family Strengths Inventory.

  • Enjoyable time together (fun)
  • Appreciation and affection (love) for each other
  • Communicating effectively with each other
  • Valuing (Respecting) each other and demonstrating commitment
  • Managing stress and crisis effectively (Resilience)
  • Spiritual well being

I would summarize it as having love, respect, fun and resilience as a family. There must be openness and free flow communication among each other. Having common value system or spiritual belief may be an additional strength.

And I certainly find it help to conduct periodical review of these factors. Enjoy!

Click here for American Family Strengths Inventory or PDF

Stress : a Friend or an Enemy ?

How to love ?

Even though Mother’s day was more than a week ago, i hope to share this meaningful illustration.

mother

To all fathers and husbands,  may i quote John Wooden who said ” the best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother”.

And how do we love our spouse?

Love is patient-2

Source : 1 Corinthians 13

 


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