I am not trying to advertise Jacobs biscuits here.
But from the first time I watched this video, it certainly has a heartwarming message.
It helps me remember to be mindful of the simple things and simple moments which make life meaningful.
So please enjoy the video clip!
The Game of Life by Dr. James Dobson ( on family talk )
Dear concerned Parents,
In the course of my work, I have frequently observes this phenomena called the “The Parent-Teenager bonding Window”.
This Window represents a limited period of time for us as parents to bond and connect with our preteens or teenager emotionally. This means to be able to have a close relationship with them.
Why is this window so important?
Because once the window of trust has closed, it is very hard to reopen it. It may have been shut by years of misunderstanding, hurts, emotional pain and perceived rejection . Then they may begin to open their window to the outside world.
Let me ask , which child or teenager do not wish to have a loving relationship with their Dad or Mum? I believe that most teenagers have a strong longing for these. But do we as parents done enough to build this connection?
The good news is that we as parents can learn to be more aware of the needs for this strong emotional bonding with our teenagers. With this loving relationship in place , it is much easier to guide our young with loving discipline.
Here is a great book to help us as parents to understand the needs of our teenagers by author Gary Chapman.
Keep it up, All the Daddies and Mummies, trust me, your investment of love, time and effort in your teenager is worth it!
Our hearts and emotional well being is like a garden.
We need to nurture and care for our “emotional garden”.
It is important to spend time watering our garden, allowing appropriate sunshine, pruning the unhealthy branches and adding fertilizers to it. We also need to pull the weeds and remove the pests that may harm the plants. Sometimes, we may wish to consult a “guru” or a mentor to guide us to enhance our gardening skills. With time, patience and effort, our garden will surely flourishes into a healthy and beautiful garden.
Unfortunately, many of us are not aware of the needs of our emotional garden.
This is simply because this garden is not clearly visible or tangible . If we have a cut on our body or sprain our ankle, we may see a visible wound or swelling, but if our emotions are traumatized and hurting, others may not see it or acknowledge it. Perhaps some of us may choose to mask our emotional wounds or pretend that I am ok because of our perception that nobody really cares about me.
If we neglect, deny, or ignore the needs of our emotional garden, weeds or “lalang” will grow and our garden will suffers and will not bloom well.
Our emotional garden may be invaded by “weeds” such as uncontrollable anger, bottled up frustrations, vengeful feelings, resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness, hatred, unhappiness, depression, suicide, excessive fears and anxiety, distrust, addiction problems and impulsive behaviours.
However, If we seek to nurture our emotional garden with good ingredients such as healthy relationships, hugs from someone who cares, unconditional love, time to heal, self-awareness, self-control, self-acceptance, good sleep, sound guidance from a mentor, social support, spiritual help, etc , we will reap the colourful flowers of happiness, peace, love, joy, gratefulness, contentment, kindness, hopefulness and meaning of life.
So I encourage you (including myself) to care for your emotional garden with tenderness, love and care each day.